Simple Ideas On Dating Offline And Online
Here are simple suggestions on researching dating offline and online:
- Team up with a male acquaintance to approach women who are by themselves. This method works most smoothly at nightspots, bar-rooms, beaches, etc. Why does this give you an advantage? Because she’s less likely to reject two men together than one man approaching her alone. Why? Because you look more outgoing; you’ve got your sidekick with you and you don’t appear like a ‘lone wolf’ or oddball. You’ve got a bit of intellectual support as well! Then it’s up to you and your friend which one is going to romance her.
- While you first make eye contact, smile. If she smiles back, you’re in. Then go up, and say hello. After that, take your cue from her. She likes you, so you don’t have to mouth off. You can say the most commonplace things; it’s your appearance, and the sound of your voice, that’re doing most of the work. If you’re anxious, just tell yourself: “plenty more fish in the sea if I mess this up”. Which is true!
- In any correspondence (email or paper or discussion boards or chat rooms), obey the following rules: Be polite and conventional to begin with. Do not assume familiarity with a total stranger. Do not use lewd language or swear-words or blather about violent or cruel acts. Women detest this kind of thing, and it makes them scared; “uh-oh, another net nutcase!” Don’t brag. Play up your best qualities and your status in the flow of the correspondence, but don’t boast. Take heed of what she has to say, and talk about HER and her pursuits. Don’t pester. If she doesn’t want to talk, or doesn’t reply, don’t nag her. Silence is an answer in itself. She may be occupied, she may have received mail from other guys first, or she just ain’t interested. Again, you don’t want to be seen as a pest-weirdo-stalker. For your own sake, you ought to try to get a photograph of her as soon as is polite. A picture speaks a thousand words, and you may save yourself a lot of exertion. Even then, pics can be old or manipulated or photoshopped, so ask for photographs from her recent holiday, or the like.
- A snazzy car is an important plus in your search for l’amour. Second-hand sports or classic autos can cost just as much as a new ’sensible’ motorcar, and are a deal more fun. Screw the petrol consumption and the insurance! Women say they disapprove of big muscles in men and their big autos. What they really mean is they dislike men who are obsessed with or who are nothing more than their big muscles or their big autos. If you have both, and can project sensitiveness and dominance, you’re three-quarters’ way home. Failing this, get an auto with character like a Morris Minor or a VW Beetle. What you’re drawing a bead on is the variety of auto a lady would like to be be viewed in. If it’s models you want, you need a flashy car. If it’s arty types, get a ‘character’ car. It depends on your social milieu, and your own character i.e. a student in a liberal arts faculty would look odd with a BMW, but upon reflection I think he’d be quite popular! Even the fact that you have any variety of car at all will be a bonus; ladies like to be driven, and it opens up many more romantic possibilities. Just keep in mind it’s only a prop in your ‘act’.
- Find a successful Casanova in your social circle, and analyze his approach. Don’t ask him questions. He might be embarrassed or he may not be aware of why he’s so successful. But try to go on “woman-hunting expeditions” with him; any social affair where there are suitable women and he’s turnin’ on the charm. Watch, make mental notes, and learn.
- You’ll have a good deal more self-confidence if you’ve got some cash in the bank, an apartment and an auto of your own; these should be a priority. You ought to also dress well. Dressing well means your appearance oozes power: you’re in command of your destiny. Women like to be taken care of; project that you can do that, and you’re half-way home. Your personal circumstances likewise affect how you behave: a man who is actually well-off will externalize that unconsciously, and be more successful with women.
- Women want you to like and admire and prize them. Casanova was successful with women not because he was good-looking or dashing (he was rather plain in looks), but because he truly appreciated them. The archetypal latin lover is very solicitous and complimentary to his quarry, and treats her like a princess, a donna. He says she is the most splendid woman in the universe, and means it. Oh, she laughs at this, but see how she glows too. Most men treat women like an alien specie, or objects to be acquired, as s-x toys, or as nagging disordered nuisances. A man that accepts a woman exactly as she is, with authentic admiration, can have any woman he wants.
- Smiling and touching: A smile shows that you are well disposed towards someone. Ensure you stand the correct distance away. Near, but not ‘in her face’. You are focusing on her, and her alone; with your kindhearted jokes and honest interest in what she is saying, you draw her nearer. Nod, smile, chuckle, tantalise her. Touch her arm while talking to her. A somewhat prurient comment may be appropriate, to try out how far you can go. You need to dispel the thought that you might be ‘just being genial’.
I hope these few basic suggestions will be of some use to you in finding a nice girl via dating online or offline.
About the author: Niccolo Svengali is an author for dating service and personal development websites in London, Great Britain.